DIY toys can be a great option-especially for women who are hesitant to use (or pay for) anything mechanical, man-made, or explicitly created for sex play, says Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph. If you want to take your blow job game to a new level, this tool-er, jewel-is for you, says Debra Laino, a sexologist and couples and marriage therapist based in Delaware. Just be sure you actually talk about your desires first. You could also try experimenting with penetrating your partner with the other end of the spoon. If you do, just be sure to wrap the spoon with non-microwavable saran wrap, says Laura McGuire, Ed.