View All. Listen to Holly Thacker, M. Has sex become a chore you no longer feel like doing? Or worse, is it painful? For many women, these feelings are all too common. As you get older — particularly after menopause — you may face an increasing number of barriers to sex, including dryness and constriction of the vagina or medical conditions such as diabetes and extra weight.
Romance novels, porn, role play, lingerie. Work, childcare, and reduced sleep are just a few things that can step on the brake, she says. Here are some techniques couples can use to get their accelerator going, according to Nagoski. Couples who stay in long-term, happy relationships usually prioritize sex and even put it on their calendars , says Nagoski.
The physical transformations your body undergoes as you age also have a major influence on your sexuality. Declining hormone levels and changes in neurological and circulatory functioning may lead to sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction or vaginal pain. Such physical changes often mean that the intensity of youthful sex may give way to more subdued responses during middle and later life. But the emotional byproducts of maturity — increased confidence, better communication skills, and lessened inhibitions — can help create a richer, more nuanced, and ultimately satisfying sexual experience. However, many people fail to realize the full potential of later-life sex.
By definition, you may be diagnosed with hypoactive sexual desire disorder if you frequently lack sexual thoughts or desire, and the absence of these feelings causes personal distress. Whether you fit this medical diagnosis or not, your doctor can look for reasons that your sex drive isn't as high as you'd like and find ways to help. Most women benefit from a treatment approach aimed at the many causes behind this condition.